SJL, you have every right to feel angry and hurt. She is your daughter and therefore a part of their family. They are being disrepectful and downright disgusting. Their behaviour is appalling.

Personally I would tell them exactly how I feel (probably with expletives!) and since they can't accept your beautiful daughter, then they don't deserve to have either her or you in their life. They are obviously not the sort of people you want your daughter associating with with their narrow minded attitude.

I apologise if that seems harsh but it is something I feel very strongly about (obviously!).

I have 3 nieces and 2 nephews. One niece is the daughter of my sisters partner so while not biologically part of 'my' family, she is just as important as the others. My parents include her as their grandchild and we all love her and are just as proud of her as if my sister gave birth to her. She is not adopted but we don't consider that important.