I hope you don't mind me - lurking around.
Jacinta - hope your little one isn't too far away. I am ina we of your strength through all of your journey to become a parent.
I am sorry the LA prejudice older parents 'unintentionally' - but takes no account that age doesn't make you a better or poorer parent
Rest easy P - I only knew of one couple who didn't get approved from our group - they were actually friends of friends -thats how we found out.
IT was a complex reason.We heard the couple had ? issues and the social worker also felt the mother may have had difficulties with parenting an adopted child because they thought she only wanted her own Bio child and she had relationship problems with her family.My friend said the lady may have been too 'honest' in her 'feelings' - so be careful what you say.
I was told by our SW that they will tell you if they thought you wouldn't get approved earlier in the process.I worried about this too because at the time we were quite young and for many complex reasons had not gone down assisted conception path.
I thought this might go against us. Many others in our group were slightly older - mid to late 30's. Plus we had at least one couple who had a single child already and were wanting to adopt a second.
We knew another couple in our group who whilst 'waiting' fell pregnant (naturally after many years AC).Sadly the baby was premmie ,had downs syndrome and other major problems - he lost his battle with life. The couple then a year or so later went on to adopt a little girl.
My single friend is overseas working as 'missionary' and not intentionally (it just happened) now she is trying to adopt a child that attached (literally) herself to her in an orphanage. She has volunteered there before. It is a testing time and a long process but easier because she will have lived there for over 2 years.
It broke my heart to hear of all the abandoned babies in this country.
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