I don't consider this morbid ... what happens to our kids if we meet an unfortunate and untimely death is definitely worth talking about.

Hun, I'd suggest you talk to a solicitor. That way you'll know exactly what the rules and regulations (... if any) are and you can put a plan into action. If you can't afford a solicitor maybe legal aid? Not all solicitor's cost the earth - shop around.

All I can tell you is that DH and I finally made our wills during the year and we appointed my sister and her DH to be our boys' legal guardians if DH and I died together or one after the other. We obviously asked and received their consent first. This is possibly a bit different to what you're asking, I realise.

You'd hope that if you can prove that you and he are in a relationship, your DS views him as his daddy and he views and treats your DS as his son etc, then sanity would prevail where adoption is concerned. Good luck with things.