I know this seems a bit morbid but I have to consider this...

Hi. I'm a single mum to a 3 year old. His biolological father is 9 years younger than me and has never wanted anything to do with him, he even resents paying child support.

I have a boyfriend whom I've been with for 18 months and we are having a baby together but since our apartments are right across from eachother we are not moving in together until my partner has bought a bigger house for us which will be around the time bub is born.

My son thinks my boyfriend is his dad because he has known him since he was 1 and a half and we are very much like a family when we are together but when I checked the internet for the steps we have to take for my boyfriend to adopt Bailey after the baby is born i read things that suggested we had to live together for at least 2 years and that Bailey needed to be five. This really scares me because I know my son very well and he would be devastated to be taken away from the only family he has ever known and be offered up to strangers (in the form of his biological fathers family) He is a very sensitive little boy and it breaks my heart to think of what could happen if I don't take the right steps now. Even though my 2nd son hasnt been born yet. My three year old talks to him everyday, pats my tummy and shows my belly his favorite toys.

Does anyone have any advice as to where I should go from here?

Thanks
Jess