But he is doing so well at Kinder, and that's what confuses me a little. There are no tanty episodes (although he does lose his temper, but they don't think it's a problem and they are working on it with him...so 10 times a day I get "I FEEL ANNNGRY.."). They say he is very very attentive, participates really well in discussions. One of the teachers even sent emails home about some planetary thingo they were on about, and can't believe his range of knowledge and often complement us on his language skills.

On a one to one basis ds is pretty good. In fact thats one of the reasons dp and I have a very fluid and flexible access arrangements - sometimes its just too hard for him to have both the kids at his place, so we sometimes take one kid each for the weekend and everyone gets enough attention

Does Miss M need too monopolize everything too? I think that's why Mr M talks so much - it's a way of keeping the attention on himself solely. Positive or negative, it's all the same to him....