I had SPD as a child and no-one was able to pick me up. I was lucky I just had a quiet, older sister so we didn't have sibling issues but when I was 2 my older cousin picked me up despite being told not to and I arched out of her arms, hit my head on the coffee table and still have the scar on my forehead to show for it!
Ouch!!! If you don't mind me asking, do you still have issues (with the SPD) now or is it something that's under control?