Having a really bad few weeks.. DS behaviour is terrible, I have no idea why. Huge melt down at school pickup 2 weeks ago, had calmed him down a bit and was talking super quick to a mum about an urgent thing and he ran off across a road and infront of a car. When he is in a mood he loses all sense of everything..
And every afternoon it's like he is on red cordial, running, jumping, banging into everything. Won't go on the trampoline, so hard to do anything.
I just want to cry.. I'm so sick of it all.. I don't want a ASD kid anymore.. I feel like it's punishment because i said before i had kids I was one of those mums who really mentally would never be able to cope with a special needs kid.. and now look.
I want to give my kids away and run away for a few weeks, but it's impossible. We have very little (i.e. none) family support, only 3hrs of respite from the council a week, and it's just not enough.
Oh Yael. Big Hugs. Its so incredibly overwhelming at times. Just know you are doing a fantastic job & your kids need you & you are doing the best you can to meet those needs. It the end of term & even the "normal" kids hit melt down stage at this time of their first year school. I know its not much but your not alone. Maybe you could try picking him up from school an hour early or something for a few days & see how that goes? Beat that melt down moment of the end of the day before he gets a chance to hit it?
I dunno, I know Evan use to go crazy at school pick ups & I just felt terrible having to go do that run each day knowing what I was in for once we got home, its an awful feeling not wanting to go pick up your son. It did pass though.
I think we've all had those moments Yael, and then I remind myself how it could be worse and look at DD's strengths rather than her weaknesses, and try to find opportunities to praise her and that makes me feel better, but sometimes it's harder than others. Perhaps his not getting enough sensory stimulation...
I've just come home from a meeting with our school were we have arranged for DD to do only 2 hours a day (10am-12pm) and we will do Waldolf homeschooling (which is heaps more sensory based) for the rest of the time. THEY were very supportive and accommodating, and even suggested only paying pro rata fees, which was great! WIN!!
Hey, Just after some suggestions..
Lately mornings are a real issue. There is anxiety, pacing the house, hand flapping, back forth trips to the loo, belching etc etc. Its a new thing to be so anxious in the mornings.
What sort of things can I suggest to help my HUSBAND! Poor DH, I know he is under stress at the moment, But he really seems to struggle in the mornings. Once he is ready & off to work he seems fine. But the whole getting ready process is obviously distressing for him atm. He even commented this morning about how hard the mornings are. He says he is enjoying his new job, lovely people to work with, nice environment etc.
I suspect that maybe its the leaving me for the day with that any call to work could be me saying you need to come home Im in labour... I just wonder what I can do to help him. To be honest (and selfish) its doing my head in a bit. I need help in the mornings getting the kids ready but he is just pacing around the house trying to pull it together.
Kinda funny when I noticed him hand flapping this morning. He always does it, or he rubs his hands really fast together. All I could think was.. And you don't really think the boys are on the spectrum?! Look at you!
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