As always Belly Belly to the rescue! Thankyou Christy for starting this.

As some of you know my eldest daughter was diagnosed formally with ASD last September. For years and years I knew something "wasn't right" - but it was so hard to put my finger on it. As she got older the behaviours changed ( for example she is now fine with coping with shopping centres etc where as a baby/small child I would more often abort the whole grocery expedition as it was fraught with screaming, and dreadful tantrums). Different behaviours have emerged. She has great great difficulty dealing with stress and anxiety and copes badly when she doesn't know what is going to happen next.

The diagnosis has helped me tremendously. It has helped our relationship no end. I now understand much of what is happening to her and why she is so rude and abrupt.
HOwever my husband is a different matter.

Ruby was always known as "the difficult one" - a difficult child. She challenged both my DH and myself. Howevear, as she has got older the behaviour has been worse for me to deal with. Mainly because I am home alone with her for so much more of the day. (DH is gone from 6am - 7pm daily). I get the stressed out child who has just held it together at school and then dumps it all as she comes thru the door. She would scream and yell religiously every afternoon. Anyway my DH believees DD behaves in these ways because she can't get on with me - he refuses to have anything to do with the iagnosis. Her first diagnosis was given by Atwood's clinic and the second and third by separate paediatricians. He still won't have a bar of it and it has made him angrier and angrier.

I feel myself getting more and more depressed as time goes on. My relationship with mydaughter has improved so very much since we began therapy - really she's like a new child! But my relationship with my husband has deteriorated dreadfully as his anger is very great that she has been "labelled".

Has anyone else had to deal with similar?