Autism/asperger's signs..hope this might help

[~Raven~]

Thanks for posting that Maz

[mrsmac]

Thankyou for posting that Maz, we are at the point where we know somethng is different about DS but are not sure what. DH has been reading up on autism and there are many red flags for us but none of the ones you have mentioned. Are they more indicative of autism than others? DH says i keep coming up with reasons why not instead of looking at the reasons for yes it is a spectrum disorder.

[maz]

Hon...first of all ...its hard when our kid's are different from the 'norm'.

the spectrum in so big hon...these are just things that I myself have experienced with W and wanted to share for those who have doubts.

FWIW my hubby didnt want to know either.....he kept saying things like no...its normal he's not on the spectrum ect. Its perfectly normal to be in denial about your child not being the perfect little package that others have. Men arent around our children all the time either due to wrok commitments so as mum's we see so much more of their behaviours ect.

I honestly think if you have an incling something isnt right, go to your MCHN or doctor and voice your concerns. Whats the harm of having him checked...the best outcome would be to be told your child is normal and experiencing normal behaviour

[mrsmac]

Thanks Maz, I have been talking to the early intervention teacher at school and to the lovely Christy and we are now leaning towards some sort of sensory disorder. A mum at school has given me the name of an OT who specialies in Sensory problems and the EI teacher has confirmed that this lady is the best around so I will call her for an appt and go from there.

[maz]

Christy is about one of the best chickies you could have to lean on hon..... which reminds me I must ring her lol
well done on taking the steps to a little understanding for yourself. Its bloody hard hon but it will be so rewarding in the end.

[Glamourcide]

Thanks for posting this, Maz... my friend's 2-year-old DS has just been diagnosed as 'severely' autistic (whatever that means) and has been showing all these symptoms and more pretty much since birth (he didn't even want to come out of his mum's belly lol, she went two weeks overdue and the induction failed, he refused to budge so she had a c-sec). The sad thing is that his dad and grandparents flat-out refuse to believe there's anything 'wrong' with him and are forever berating my friend for her 'bad parenting', accusing her of deliberately holding back his development in order to get attention and sympathy for herself. She's the one who has been fighting long and hard to get someone to tell her how to help her little man, and even though her (now ex) partner was with her at the latest doctor's appointment, he still thinks she's somehow at fault and that there's really nothing so odd about him anyway. Even his parents are now in on the act - they're shirty that a diagnosis has said their grandson isn't 'perfect' and are now demanding that my friend give them back his cot, changetable, clothes and toys that they've bought him, etc etc... pair of ****s.
I wish I could print Maz's post out and give it to him, try and get him to wake up to himself and admit that his gorgeous little man needs help, not denial, but obviously it's not my place to stick my nose in. All I can do is support my friend and try to help her as best I can. I don't know what the future holds for them, but I hope he can get the treatment he needs without his father and grandparents interfering because they're 'ashamed' of him.

[maz]

What a truely wonderful friend you are Donna. Its so heart warming to know that a mum who is going through this has such a wonderful support and friend.

Denial is easier sometimes then dealing with what is right infront of their nose, and blame often follows suit . Friends who dont understand that your life must revolve around this little person or have an unwillingness to 'put up' you or you child turn and walk away 9 time out of ten. Its extremely heart warming to know that your friend has you to turn to when she needs it.

I hope that your friend is aware of what is available to her in regards to career payments and respite also. Although most of us mum'/s with childrne with special needs are very proud to say we can do it on our own, we do need a break of some sort and if there isnt a significant other there to help...respite can do wonders.

your put a huge smile on my dial