Can not get help

[Artechim]

I hope my post didn't come off as sounding as though you can parent your way out of everything. Some kids are really hard work! My two girls together have not been anywhere near the work that DS has been, yet I have done all the same things with all of them. I honestly think if it weren't for the sensory stuff it would have been a completely different journey. But he is who he is and he is a pretty cool kid, quirks and all

Have they not assessed her for ADHD yet? I remember that you have wondered about that since she was little and what you wrote above sounds pretty text book. I know it is pretty hit and miss to get someone who is actually helpful, but I hope the psych is reasonable.

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The problem is that I have no one ready to take me seriously yet. She's not old enough for it to be affecting her at school, so not an issue. She's only at school 3 days a week & kindy, while they're learning the basics, is still more about movement & learning through play. Her interest is always held & they don't do an activity for any extended length of time.

She's also keen to learn. As I have always been. But I know now, that I was ADD. Still am. I have the lack of focus & was a day dreamer all through school. But I still enjoy learning, even though I find it challenging to stay on task. So this to me doesn't discount her chances of difficulties for her in the future. I'm also guessing that her being awake later on school nights & being over stimulated & in a fowl mood in the afternoons is because she's tried so hard to contain herself while at school.

My GP actually said to me 'she's clearly not ADHD. You have 2 difficult children, she's looking for attention. You are a solo parent, so you're already in a difficult situation. Life will just always be difficult for you'. Because he can tell by the 15 minutes we sit in for appointments every few months...

I'm hoping the new psych will be able to help me with an ADD assessment. If it's just a no, then fine, we'll work on that. But I never suspected ADD with DS. The paed wanted to have an assessment done, just to rule it out. But I was right & he was fine. The fact that I knew there wasn't anything there tells me that my gut feeling is pretty on point.

I just want to be listened too. That's all. Taken seriously. Before it starts to dramatically effect her learning like it did with DD2, who is still catching up. I feel like if I get a yes or no now, we have a head start...