I've just had an OT assessment done on DD2 after the school suggested she may have an auditory processing disorder. I googled & figured that there may be more going on than that & I go in for the findings of that assessment tomorrow.

While DD was having her assessment, the OT decided to flag DS for early childhood intervention.

I told DH this & he lost it. In his words 'it was too late for DD2, but you leave the boy out of it!'

I didn't get it. Until tonight I couldn't work out what on earth his problem was. I know he's just a little boy & that nothing is wrong with him, but what if there is? She would've said that for a reason.

He made it clear he didn't want DS talking to or seeing any doctors about this sort of stuff & to leave him alone.

Then I got why out of him. He doesn't want a child, specially not his only son, with problems. Now I get it.

He grew up with a special needs brother & saw how hard his life was every day. Our kids are no where near where his brother was, but I think its the label. He needs them to be just normal kids & that all normal kids do these things.

Now I feel bad. I know how he feels, because I feel the same way. I feel that once there's a diagnosis it becomes real. There's no going back. Its reality that this is how they will be for the rest of their lives & that things will always be that little bit harder for them.

I do get it, but my life is about doing what is best for my kids. Getting them any help they may need is whats best for them. To help them be the best they can be.

Can someone give me idea's on how to talk DH around? How to make him see that its not about our kids being labelled, but about them getting the help they need?

He feels that he will treat them different if there is something & he knows about it. He can say some hurtful things when he's in a foul mood. He doesn't think before he speaks & he can be really hurtful in the heat of the moment. I think he's worried about this. (TBH, I wonder about him too....)

Do I continue with what I'm doing & let him know? Do I do it & not tell him?

Anyone have all the answers??