what kinds of things do your gifted children do? interesting. :-)
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what kinds of things do your gifted children do? interesting. :-)
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I assume you mean intellectually gifted? There are different domains/ areas of giftedness. For some reading/info try looking for your state association (I can't see where you're from) Links to Associations
GERRIC at the University of NSW also run programs for parents
Yes we found out 3 days before Christmas last year that Lachlan was gifted. We got referred to a child psychologist as well, who can do further testing and help us cope but it is so expensive. We simply can't afford it. We were looking at over $2000 for 12 sessions, which is how many the paed said we'd need, plus there are none in our area we'd have to go to the city which is over an hour round trip all the time. The paed also recommended him being moved up to grade 3, but with his older brother in Grade 3 it just wouldn't work for us.
I spoke to his school and they generally haven't been that helpful, but I know his teacher was given a survey to fill out about him. He is in a composite 2/3 class where he is a grade 2, so that helps cause it is easy for his teacher to give him harder work. Every year now I will put in a request for him to be in a composition class with him being in the younger grade. I know with his reading, he is the 3rd highest when it comes to levels, well last time I looked he was. Like I said half of his class are grade 3, so he is surpassing all of them as well.
It has it's frustrating side, cause he is bored a lot at home so acts out on that but doesn't really have the patience level yet to sit and do something for more than 5 mins at a time, unless it is on the computer.
THANKS ! for your replys ladies
Mumtoramone: there was no formal test , more like a quiz , i think it was more his own quiz to guide him to a decison on if they are gifted or not , and most of the questions i was asked . I went in there to talk about her behavior as i feel there is a sensory issue going on .sensory isssuess and giftedness can go hand in hand . so the child psycologist is the best person to talk to , here in QLD we have free health centres that you can see all types of professionals ( counsellers , psycs, dieticians etc) for free but the wait list is massive .so i will be going private . your boy and my dd are about the same age . so look out lol .
Kiwi mummy - im new to it my head is spinning , schooling is the thing that scares me , i was never intrested in school . i did ok but im very creative and i dont think the schools i went to really acknowledged it , i think DD is so much like me only magnified, like a supercharged version of me . so i worry . i hope to find some support groups . but i fear it will be a " my kids so much smarter" kinda thing .
TD : i know they can be fun indeed , she tells me jokes and its sooo cute , the latest is " what kind of hair does the ocean have ? " ..... " WAVY hair " lol tooo cute .
Hollo : gifted kids do LOTS of things lol . mostly talking and reading and thier abilittes to do simple activities come sooner than other babies . for example my DD can memorise songs so well and sing them when they are not on , ( think a 2 yr old singing the bruno mars lazy song lol" and also she is so advanced in her vocab , she can talk just as fluent as my 5 year old . toilet training came easy to her aswell. what astounds me is her knowledge and understanding of conversation . often who , what , where , when and why are in every conversation . and a simple answer to a question is not good enough for them . its exhausting explaining things all day lol .
amanuet: yes , intellectually gifted . no special talents yet . my dad has a high IQ so im keen to see this psyc to see if it runs in the fam.
astro: i have a great school that i want to send the kids to which is a public school, now im not sure , i ve heard that gifted kids arent really looked after at state schools, i checked out a school thats private and has a gifted kids program , i can afford one to go there but not both . and i know the testing is exxy . and we dont really have the money either ... im secretly hoping she gets a scholarship lol .. in my dreams !!
good to know there are voices out there i can ask for help . thanks ladies
Lachlan picks up things really quickly as well. We started toilet training him the day he turned 3. The day after he was both day and night trained. We were waiting for relapse, but it never came.
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I was "gifted" at school and put in a special GAT ( Gifted and talented class ) at about 8.... onwards...
I used to make jokes that DS would be special too.... but I have noticed so much recently especially.
he started to TT at 16 mths old
Can do ages 3 plus puzzles by himself ( 30 or more pieces) and quickly too like his mind knows where they go
He reads basic books ( dont know if its from memory or how he does this, although he sounds out the words I dont know ? )
He can count to 30
and from 20 backwards
say the whole alphabet
sings about 5 nursery rhymes word for word and he only learnt them recently... all at the same time
He responds to some things in indonesian ( we have been twice since he has been born )
and heaps more... You only really notice how clever they are when they are around older kids but are more switched on .... since ds goes to preschool nnow one day a week I have noticed he acts like a 3-4 yr old.... all his peers are still having trouble talking whilst DS tells stories all day and tells everyone what he did all week....
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The group we go to isn't like that at all (thankfully). It's not about the academics, it's being able to chat to other parents without worrying that you sound like you're bragging and people who understand what it's like to have your ear talked off all day, or a child who's super intense or cannot sit still or whatever.
If you try to discuss the same issues elsewhere people aren't very accepting, but it's a fact these kids learn differently and behave differently.
Where in QLD are you?
ugh .lost my post !
Butter - thanks for your input great post and has given me lots to think about .
kiwi , no one i know really understands us . gabbi is a kid who is on the move all the time , people think shes so cute and funny and joke about keeping her and taking her home with them , me and DH joke back and say , take her please . we need a break lol ...
but they only she her for a little bit , when its 24/7 of go go go its a different story , and yes i find if i bring it up , people dont really accept it , either they think im lying or cant control my kids ... I just want someone with kids my age to relate to , alot of people i talk to are older and have gifted grandkids who are 16 or 17 lol not much help when my kid is only 2 .
we are in ipswich QLD .
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I was reading through this thread and very happy to see social skills come up. I was somewhat gifted - my IQ was not off the scale but well above average. However everyone at school knew I was "smarter" and I therefore dumbed myself down because I thought I would be more accepted socially at school. Didn't really work LOL! But I have a lot of regrets, I wish I had really applied myself to see what I could have done.
I actually think it would be important to concentrate on them being well rounded. If they are gifted intellectually, also encourage physical activities, something that doesn't come quite so easily to them. And to concentrate on their friendships. If they really are super-smart, they will need to know how to interact with "normal" children without getting impatient with them. It can be just as isolating being highly intellectual as being intellectually impaired.
And just because someone is gifted it doesn't mean they will actually be a high achiever or wildly successful. Because things come so easily to them it can be hard for them to learn to apply themselves consistently and persevere to achieve long term goals. That's possibly something they could learn by "other" activities, where they are "normal" and need to put in the same amount of practice as "normal" people.
Hope this makes sense, desperately typing while keeping DD2 away from the keyboard.
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I want to start this by saying I am not 'gifted' but DP is and he has been formally IQ tested. In terms of his life experiences, I want to agree with what previous posters have said about not learning to persevere with a task because so many things come easily he never had to learn to work at things, especially school related. Obviously he has done this to some extent to gain his quals etc but now, if something doesn't interest him, he finds it extraordinarily difficulty to stick at it or get motivated. He is not great at concentrating for long periods, especially if he is even slightly disinterested and so he does procrastinate a lot. I think this is due to him having twice as many trains of thought to keep track of than the average person but it's also about the interaction of ability and personality style too.
He is good at pretty much everything he tries and he does have good social skills so he is usually able to get along with most people and hide his frustration with people when they don't know how to do things, even after he explains it LOL! He has told me that he constantly has to remember that maybe other people don't know what he does and therefore they're coming at a task or situation with less knowledge (and so in his opinion choosing poorer solutions).
We get lots of comments about DS (who is 27 months old) in relation to being bright/verbal/smart/good memory etc from friends, strangers, GPs, neighbours, childcare workers and so on. I find it hard to know how to respond to these comments because I only have one child. To me, all 2 year olds look bright and inquisitive and eager to learn and I don't spend enough time with kids other than DS. I am kind of hoping that DS is 'bright-normal' because the gifted road can be a tough one and lots of gifted people do not reach their full potential and feel socially ostracised.
I guess though all of that stuff relates to 'adult' or even 'older child' issues and right now you just need to focus on coping with the (nearly) 3 year old you have. I think the association links earlier in the thread sound great and I was going to suggest you contact Mensa in your state to see if they have a parents group. They do accept child members with appropriate testing evidence etc so they may have a parents group you can tap into.
I am interested in what the paed is talking about when he/she says they can test your DD when she is 4? In terms of IQ testing, this can be done (at the absolute earliest) at 2.5 years and it would be a psychologist who conducts that assessment, not the paed. Paeds do other observational assessments across the developmental milestones which is also important information because (as I'm sure you know), intelligence is not just about accademic success and an IQ test will tell you a child's potential to achieve in accademic settings only. The older the child after 2.5years, the more reliable the score will be, especially if you are expecting a score at either end of the spectrum.
I don't know if this post is helpful or not because I feel like I've just been rambling lol. I guess you need to continue to focus on your DD as an individual. She still has weaknesses as well as strengths and there is still a lot of development ahead - both cognitively, behaviourally, personality wise and socially. I do hope you can find a supportive network of other parents who you can identify with and share experiences. I will be interested to hear how you go. In terms of your DD being on the go, there is a great facebook page I found recently called play at home mum (could be spelt mom) with awesome play and developmental ideas (plus notes and photos on how to do some of that stuff yourself) which might stretch your DD.
ETA - forgot to mention the psych can also do an adaptive behaviour assessment which will look at your DD across the various developmental milestones so you could get this information a bit quicker than 4 y.o. One of the more common ones is called the Vineland Adaptive Behaviour Scale.
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So far I don't have any gifted kids, just difficult onesBUT my cousin was/is gifted.
He never really attended school because they weren't teaching him the stuff he needed to be taught... eg - he was doing year 7 maths at 7 years old.
The only school my aunt tried though, was a private school (TAS in Armidale). She pulled him out after about 3 months & home schooled him for the rest of his schooling years (which she did the wrong way!)
He was on the front page of the Sunday Telegraph as one of the highest IQ's on Aust at about 10 I think.
He was also ADHD. The biggest thing for him was boredom. The need for constant stimulation & needing to be challenged... pulling apart old computers etc & putting them back together was a fave past time through his early teen years.
I can't tell you about services though... he was never lucky enough to have recieved outside help. His mother is a bit odd
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Very informative thread.
MR - Spot on, as usualYour advice is always so balanced. Great social skills can only enhance our other skills (academic, creative etc) and life enjoyment.
FWIW - Every childcare/kindy/school is different. They all manage giftedness in different ways, and can vary greatly from year level and classroom and teacher to teacher. As a teacher, I know we tend to deal with the disruptive aspects much more quickly (and much better) than the boredom/giftedness. I also know that logistically it can be difficult to cater for children's varying needs.... but it can be done! In my year 4 reading program, I used readers from a pre-prep to a beyond year 8 level, all at the same time, in one classroom. Although our school has a great 'enrichment' program, it tries to fit too many students in (it's great pr) and so works at too low a level for the more gifted ones! And I've had teachers in the following year level refuse to let a gifted student join their class for a maths lesson due to overcrowding/behaviour problems, which, although frustrating, was well within their rights. I've also had gifted students removed from my class for enrichment in say, maths, during our class reading time, which was a weakness. On the positive side, I've seen several students skip a grade and many more well catered to by addressing their weaknesses as well as fostering their strengths - that's what any educator worth their salt does all day every day. We have year levels that 'stream' their students for literacy and numeracy so that students can learn more effectively at the level they need to. What I'm saying is, 'shop around', start early as it might take a while, but don't give up on finding somewhere for your child.
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Hope you don't mind me butting in... I just saw this thread and wanted to share some info I came across by Louise Porter. I'm a massive Porter fan and she does a lot of work regarding gifted children.
I noticed she had this fact sheet on her website which answers some questions discussed in this thread:
http://www.louiseporter.com.au/pdfs/...edness_web.pdf
I also organised a phone consult with her via skype last week to discuss my own son (autism) and it was great. Just wanted to let you know if you're interested in asking her some questions because it was $75, so cheap compared to some psychs and she has opinions I really value.
ETA: I linked the wrong article... I meant this one:
Twelve myths of gifted education
wow this thread is gaining more people every time i pop in to post !!
all the links and posts are sooo helpful !
Niadalla , If you think your child is gifted do some reasearch and get an appt with a pead . I had an inkling that DD was gifted so i listed all her behaviours ( some gifted behavoirs and some not ) and with out even mentioning the word gifted the pead pulled up an IQ scale and told me about DD and where she sits and why , he didnt talk about reading or writing or profound gifts like piano playing etc , he spoke about the behaviour side of things , and how hard it can be . which helped as DD can not read ( that i know of ) the only word ive seen her read/remember is Kookaburra. so it wasnt in my best intrests to know about that side of things just yet . If your child is happy and progressing well than there is no need to push for testing at the moment. there is also a difference between Bright and gifted .
Having a sensory processing disorder in sensory seeking was what brought me to the pead , so yes maybe bring it to the attn of the MCHN . and see a pead . Im glad ive met this gitftedness early as i can provide better as i learn more .
MR .. yes we must meet ! everything you have wrote has struck a cord with all that ive learnt about giftedness ESP the part about low muscle tone and the inability to not sit still , the behaviours like defiance and rough play and hitting .. all fits with DD . I will PM you in a sec .
thanks Ladies its so good to talk about this its really helping . xx
oh and these kids definatley have their quirks !! currently DD is playing air gitar with a old numberplate , she has already put my passport in the blender to "chop it up " so i cant leave on a plane ... and thats only in the last hour lol !
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