DD1 turns 6 in October and started Prep this year. She was so excited and couldn't wait to go. She has significant language delay, and also needs Occupational Therapy. Her Prep teacher is already talking about her repeating. If she does, she will be 7, and in the same class as 5 year olds.
DS1 has Autism Spectrum Disorder. He goes to Kindy at a Special Education Unit two mornings a week, and next year will be going five mornings a week. He cannot talk at all, is not toilet trained, and does very little that a 4 year old should do.
DD2 and DS2 are 19 month old twins. DD2 doesn't seem to be very delayed, apart from not talking, but at least she makes lots of sounds. She still likes pureed food, but at least she will eat finger food. DS2 will not eat anything that is not pureed, drops any finger food food that is put into his hand, and can only make one sound, a hard, "G" sound. Nothing else. They have been accepted into the Playgroup that is run at the same place that DS1 goes to. The Guidance Officer that I spoke to there suggested that it is too early to tell, but DS2 could quite possibly have an Intellectual Disability, or be Autistic as well.
What have I done wrong? Am I a horrible mother? I am in tears again from going over it.
No need to reply, I just needed to vent.
you are not a horrible mother and have done nothing wrong... I cant offer you anything other than another hug as i have no idea what you must be feeling
3 firm smacks for thinking your a horrible mother!! get that silly cotton picking idea rigth out of your head NOW!!!!!
These babies have been sent to you cause they knew that you would love and nuture them for who they are not what they are.
Hon - if you have doubts about DD@ get a second opinion. Take her to your MCHN, GP anyone who will listen. Your her mum and your gut is tellign you something isnt right...you know honey, yourve been there before. I knew that my DS2 was special needs from the time he was born. It was my gutt telling me and I wasnt wrong. He has medium functioning autisum and OMG we are having bad days since he started school. I went to 2 different doctors and finally my MCHN listened to me and helped me.
I wish you the best of luck and if you feel like your hitting brick walls matie...pm me Im always here to listen. A person told is a burdern lessened!
Oh Karla, big hugs to you. What a difficult time you have had over the last few years. And what an amazing job you have done to take all that on board and do all the right things for you children. You must be totally exhausted and drained. Please do not feel any guilt, you have done nothing wrong. On the contrary, your children are lucky to have such a caring, devoted mum.
Do you have any time to yourself? Any-one to help you out when it all gets too much? I think you are totally amazing to deal with all that.
Karla special babies get sent to the best mothers so they can SHOW the rest of us how to do it! You haven't done anything wrong. Your kids are lucky to have you, you sound like you're a very alert and caring mum (for example, your DS2 sounds relatively normal to me, for 19 months - you know better because you're around him all the time and you know your stuff - if i were his mum he might have gone a long time without anyone helping him!), thank goodness for your kids, that they have you!
All 4 of my munchkins came down with gastro at the same time, with the youngest having to go into hospital for a couple of days. We've gotten over that, and now they are all sick with a shocking cold. I'm just feeling really tired at the moment, and everything together has made me feel a little depressed.
DH has been absolutely fantastic, and I don't know where I would be without my mum.
Just need to let it out
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you are not a horrible mother 
and have done nothing wrong... I cant offer you anything other than another hug as i have no idea what you must be feeling 
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