I didn't change my name when I got married...and my husbands family did not like it one bit! I get comments from time to time about it...but really, I don't care what others think about a decision that really, has no bearing on anything. When we have children, I'd like them to have my name but we'll need to have further discussion because my husband is probably more leaning towards hyphenating so as to honour both of our families. I went to school with SO many kids with hyphenated surnames and it was never an issue for them (that I was aware of)...it just wasn't a big deal. Friends of mine had a baby, together for 10 years but not married - baby got mum's surname and dad decided to change his surname to mum's via deed poll...