This particular name we both had picked since before even meeting each other. It's a fairly common name these days but also has strong family history on my side. We haven't discussed names with any family or friends as we want it to be a surprise for them.

My girlfriend I see once every few weeks where we'll catch up for coffee or meet up at each others place. Our kids will probably be friends but I also think if we have a son, we've got to live with the name for his lifetime - would it really matter if they grew up with the same name? We don't have any friends in common. That would be a definite reason I would then not choose the name or if she was family of course. DH says to still use it as we have had it picked for so long...