Thanks again for all you comments and suggestions - they've been great.
With regard to some peoples suggestion of not using Ari for a girl in case we have a third baby and it's a boy I can safely say (for various reasons) that we won't be needing another name after this baby..... you can count on that! So, if this baby is a girl then Ari is definitely free to use! I think we have almost settled on Ari for a girl or boy and are playing with the idea of spelling it slightly differently to make it a bit more feminine - maybe Aree or Arie - as suggested by TsMummy (thanks for the ideas BTW!)..... but we're still not quite sure.
As the big day is rapidly approaching are there any more final ideas or suggestions? I promise to not ask many more times!!
if you like Ari, IMO you should just spell it that way.
do you want to pronounce it 'urry' (like the hebrew name)? if so, some of those other spellings look more like 'uh-REE' and will be pronounced that way. Ahrea looks to me like it should be pronounced 'aria' (hey, there's another possibility for you!!)
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