His or my surname?

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Personally I think it depends on the circumstances, if it were me and my children were going to see their dad & he was active in their life then I would give them his.
If he was nowhere to be seen they would get mine.


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[Miss.September]

Personally I think it depends on the circumstances, if it were me and my children were going to see their dad & he was active in their life then I would give them his.
If he was nowhere to be seen they would get mine.

Totally agree.

[Jellyfish]

Yours. Doesn't really matter in my opinion if the Dad is going to be involved or not as you will be the one filling out the forms, having them on your medicare card, dealing with the school etc which to me, the practicality of it all is more important than either parent getting 'branding rights'.

My DD1 has her Dad's, it is a huge pain and something I regret. We are actually looking at getting it changed now before she starts school and her Dad agrees that it makes more sense for her to have mine. Currently myself and DP are her 'everyday' parents and it is just inconvenient that she doesn't share either of our name so 3 surnames in the household. DD1 stays with her Dad for a night a week, he is actively involved but in the end, most times when a surname is required, DP and I will be the ones standing next to her. I think a 'present' Dad is even more likely to see the benefit in giving them yours because they will want what is best and easiest for their child, at least that is the case with DD1s Dad (in that he is even comfortable with her having DPs surname which I really respect about him -- he knows being her Dad is more than a name and just wants what is best for her).

[Sopdet]

Yours

[AngelPants]

Personally I think it depends on the circumstances, if it were me and my children were going to see their dad & he was active in their life then I would give them his.
If he was nowhere to be seen they would get mine.

i tend to agree with this. tho i hated having a different name to DS before DH & I got married.

i manage ok with 2 alternative spellings of my given name. its spelt differently on my birth cert, marriage cert and medicare stuff than anything else so you can have one thing on the birth cert then something different for everyday use. or you could have your last name as a 2nd middle name? i know a few people who did this.

[Nai]

Yours!

[kristi14]

Sorry to hear of your recent seperation, i hope you are going ok, im sure its stressful at times.

It would really depend on how you feel about your ex but personally if it was amicable and i was on reasonably good terms with my ex i would give the baby his surname so that both my children had the same surname because for their sake, if they are full blood siblings then i think it would be confusing for them to have different surnames. If it was baby #1 i might have a different opinion. This is purely my opinion though.

[Ashlee]

I should have made it more clear, my DS and the baby I'm pregnant with, don't have the same father - so my DS's last name will be different to this baby's no matter what.

I wouldn't consider the option of this bub having DS's surname.

Thanks for the feedback though, I appreciate it everyone.

[Party-of-five]

I seperated with DSs father before he was born and he has my maiden name, when I married my DH I asked if he wanted to change his name but he said he likes having the same last name as his Pop Pop

[RockingBaker]

My DDs have my last name and I was single when I had them. I'd definitely use yours if I was you.