First baby we threw names around and were doing okay chatting about it. But I had a girl's name I couldn't give up on that my H didn't like. I tried to like other names but eventually I had to admit that I would be heart broken with any other girl's name and it HAD to be that name so how could we work this out. Over time my H became obsessed with a boy's name that I didn't like and he wouldn't quit on it. Even though I felt sure I was having a boy, in desperation for my girl's name I struck a deal with him that he could name a boy and I could name a girl. We just sort of half-heartedly agreed and stopped talking about it seeing we'd come to impasse.

My son was born and about 30 mins after the MWs asked what we were thinking of calling him. We looked at each other knowing that the moment of truth was there. My H said "I want to call him E". I gave one more attempt at my choice "Are you sure not J?" and he said he really wanted E. I felt weak like you so soon after birth and I agreed. I actually harboured some resentment over that as it took about 2 years for me to like my son's name and I felt betrayed that my H hadn't softened to my choice after watching me give birth.

Second baby I said "You named the first one, this name is my choice. Okay? Great!". He didn't complain and even though he said my name choice wasn't his first choice he never tried to get me to choose another name.

If we have a third I have already decided what names I want so I've run them by my H already to make sure he agrees