i have a similar situation with the name Ethan, but my friend said that if i liked the name i could use it too. her son was born 2 weeks ago, mine is due in 2 weeks! her partner didnt like the name ethan so they compromised and they named their son with Ethan as a middle name. i still like Ethan and since they used it as a middle name i guess it makes it even easier for me to use the name as a first. but even though she said i could use it, i dont want to cause her any distress. especially since she caved and had to use it as a secon name.... hmmm i dunno what to do.

btw, i love Archie as a first name too but DH doesnt. why do the fathers make it so dificult for us! :-)