Keeping it a secret
we have FINALLY decided on the boys names and have decided to keep it under wraps until they are born ... our decision right?? It seems quite a few people (mainly family) are quite offended by this decision and trying to make me feel bad because I won't tell them.
Has anyone else kept it a secret and how did you manage with these kinds of people?
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Of course it is your decision! And don't let them bully you into telling them. If they had any respect for you at all then they would wait.
Just stick to your guns and tell them they have to wait or maybe throw them off the scent and give some fake names say something like or we are torn between this name and that name (make up some) and say you will make a definite decision once the babies are born
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I hear ya! We have had the same problem cause we know the sex of our little cupcake and no-one else does. Some people can't handle that.
We have just told people it's our decision and we really want something to tell people when this one is born, not just "well baby is here". That takes all the excitement out of it for DH and I.
hope they lay off soon!
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I would just say that you haven't decided yet and will make a decision when you see your babies. I would never tell anyone what the names are or that they had been decided.
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We did not tell anyone either time!!
Your baby your decision, I must say friends who we knew sex and name before hand loose all excitment when they send birth announcment SMS as all we didnt know was date and time!!
Stick to your guns Good luck
You were RAK'ed in 2015.
We never told anyone the names we had pickd out, and if asked we just mentioned that theres an old wives tale about it being bad luck to tell people. Most people were happy with that, and if they werent we then told them we wanted the names to be a surprise for everyone, just like what the gender was.
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pffft keep it a secret as long as you can my own SiL stole my name for a girl if my ds had of been a boy and just coincidentally her dd was born 3 weeks before ds and she tried to hide the name she chose as it was the name i was going to have..
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When I had Moo we decided on his name very early on, no one found out until he was born. It was hard when I was still working as people would constantly bug me. Sometimes they'd guess it & I'd have to keep a straight face (which I find very difficult!) but I never slipped up.
My family didn't even ask so that was easy. The reason we didn't want to tell is that the name was highly emotive being my deceased father's name, it just made it that much more special when DS was finally born on his anniversary. We didn't want anyone saying anything negative about the name either, even though it's quite a normal name you never know! His name is Peter btw.
Pesonally I never ask those kind of questions. My best friend recently had a little girl, knew the sex & the name beforehand. She never divulged & I never asked her. I figured if she wanted me to know she would tell me herself
It's completely your decision, good luck!
Last edited by ~Hestia~; March 10th, 2011 at 12:52 PM.
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When I was pregnant with ds we found out he was a boy and chose his name before he was born and told everyone so there was no suprises. I've already chosen names for my next kid coz I'm just that lame hahah but I refuse to tell my family and I said even when I do get pregnant I'm going to find out the sex and keep that secret as well as far as I'm concerned they can build a bridge its my decision
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It is totally your decision. Others really shouldn't be getting their knickers in a knot about it. They all made their own choices when they had their kids and this is your choice to make and they should respect that.
We found out the sex of our babies and decided to share that but decided to keep the names a secret until they were born so there was still an element of surprise for everyone come birth day. It also stopped other people giving their opinions of our names, once they knew it was too late they just had to grin and say "Oh what a lovely name". If people tried to get further information I just told them the types of names we liked or the ones we knew we wouldn't use. Maybe they are trying to get a feel for if you are going traditional or unique. However they should be able to tell that from your other kids names.
Your right to keep it a secret. Stay strong!
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WHAT? They are your babies. I can't believe someone else would crack it or pressure you to tell them.Just be upfront and say you are not telling anyone, and besides that you haven't decided yet.
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We did that too, everyone knew everything else about the pregnancy and bub so we kept name choices to ourselves. Yeah it peeved a few ppl but there wasn't anything they could do about it! DH mum - for some random reason - was very upset about it coz she was convinced she was the only one we were keeping it from but other than that people just had to get over it, it was our choice and we didn't want their opinions of the names we had chosen coz it's your choice and you shouldn't have to consider other peoples opinions. For us it turned out we changed our mind when we saw DD but it didn't matter, No one knew any of the names we were considering. Don't cave in to them!!!
Thanks everyone, its more my sister than anyone else. She invited herself to DD2s birth and has demanded that she is notified as soon as i go into labour this time around so she can leave Geelong for Ballarat as soon as she gets notification and not to look after my other kids to be in at the birth again when she hasn't been invited!! It maybe hormones but she is annoying me to no end lately!
ETA- I think I'll be sending her a message the day after they are born lol
We still havent decided on a name yet until we see her. But both sides are convinced that we know but we arent saying anything. Just say you have a list but you havent decided
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screw 'em! They are your babies.
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Good work!
We told people gender but names are for us. We don't really decide on one name anyway, but narrow it down to 2-3 before bubs is born. But these are kept top secret.
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We knew with Peppars name we would get some lovers but loads of haters so we chose to keep it our secret. We both loved her name (obviously) and didnt want people bringing us down with their negative comments.
Only me and DH knew but my SIL used to drill the boys because she was sure that we had told them too.
Her nickname was Shaniqua so thats what we called her all the time, so much so some people even thought that was what we were going to name her
Its your baby, your choice so stuff them all I say.
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I agree with everyone else, they're your babies, it's your choice what to tell! To be honest I think it's rude of them to get cranky about it, they don't have a 'right' to know.
We're finding it hard ourselves, we know the sex and name and aren't telling either. We haven't been getting entered though, it must be hard!
Nice work on the text the next day, you don't want anyone inviting themselves along to your birth, even if they are family
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