It is totally your decision. Others really shouldn't be getting their knickers in a knot about it. They all made their own choices when they had their kids and this is your choice to make and they should respect that.

We found out the sex of our babies and decided to share that but decided to keep the names a secret until they were born so there was still an element of surprise for everyone come birth day. It also stopped other people giving their opinions of our names, once they knew it was too late they just had to grin and say "Oh what a lovely name". If people tried to get further information I just told them the types of names we liked or the ones we knew we wouldn't use. Maybe they are trying to get a feel for if you are going traditional or unique. However they should be able to tell that from your other kids names.

Your right to keep it a secret. Stay strong!