when we were younger, my bro idolised Michael Jordan and said he'd name his first son either Michael or Jordan - our cousin had a boy and named him Jordan, so from then on, my bro was naming his first boy Michael - if i had a son before him, and used the name Michael, i'd see that as stealing the name from my bro.

we have names picked for our Gremlin - we also have another girls name and a boys name picked out. my immediate family know these names, and if they used them (they have no significance to family, so there is no reason for them to use them) i'd be peeved. if someone from DH's extended family used out boys name though, i'd get over it and still use it - the boys name is for DH's dad so it has meaning to others - i'd still use it cos the family are so estranged i'd never see the other little boy kwim? i MIGHT change first and second name order though..

there are a few BB girls that know Gremlin's name - if any of them managed to pop before me and used it now, i might feel a bit hurt because none that i've told it to have jumped up and said "OMG we were gonna use that name" so it would feel like they got the idea (kinda unusual name) and used it from us kwim?