Surname dilemma

[Tinks]

Maybe change your name back and give the baby your maiden name.

[feeb]

I would change name back and give baby your maiden name.

Do you really want to have ex surnames anyway still??

good luck

[Visitor7]

If you're divorced, then 'usually' you go back to your maiden name. And you certainly wouldn't be naming your child after a total stranger (to the child). IMO anyway.

[Serendypyty]

I agree, use your maiden name and give your bub the same surname. It would only be fitting

[bec293]

oops I just wrote out a reply and lost it..

thanks girls, and no, if I wasn't having a baby I wouldn't be considering changing my name back. XH and I are on good terms (it wasn't a messy breakup), even if I don't see him anymore. And I wouldn't have changed it because I like it, it's a much nicer name than my maiden name (one of those names that have to be spelled every time you say it), and it's such a pain to change names. But there is no family connection there for bub so it doesn't mean anything.

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

Why not change your name to a last name you like that isn't your maiden name or your married name? Then you and bub have that name. Winners all around.

[HotI]

If you are comfortable with your current surname, i don't see a problem with keeping it and giving your bub the same name.