Surname dilemma

[HotI]

If you are comfortable with your current surname, i don't see a problem with keeping it and giving your bub the same name.

[Buzzie]

Bec - i had a similar issue, My son was always going to take my name without hessitation, but i had never been married and i was NOT in good terms with my father and did NOT want DS carring on my dads name so i changed my name to my mums maiden name which i loved being and then DS took that name. As im not married still this bub will also take this name so the kids are the same.

As someone said you can just make one up if u have issues with ur mums name - its the exact same process.

[~clover~]

I would consider your mothers maiden name as well. DH has his mothers name. They did change it when she married later, but he went back to it when he went for his license & now all our kids also have her name.

[Chuckie]

I have a mate who has four kids to her ex husband (he has actually died now) so they all have the same name but she has since had another bub to a different guy (who does not live with her) and didn't know what to do about the surname becuase she didn't want her youngest to have a different name to the other kids. In the end she went with the father's surname as he is in the baby's life. My ex had a child from a previous relationship and her mum gave her the surname of a boyfriend she then broke up with! So the the kid had name that was not her mother's or father's!!! If I was in your shoes I would go down the maiden name route so you have the same name as bub and it is not your XH's name (he has nothing to do with the bub after all).

[bec293]

thanks everyone, I think I am going to change my name back to my maiden name even though I don't like it. It is my family name, and makes so much sense for bub to have that name when I think about it. Does anyone know how to go about doing that?

[~clover~]

Do you get papers to say you are divorced? I guess it'd be similar to changing when you marry wouldn't it?
Or you could get a JP to sign a stat dec saying you are known as your maiden name now, then use that to change the name on your license etc.
I'm really not sure, but there are people who would know around here

[mrsmac]

Look on the births deaths and marriages website for your state and get an over 18 change of name form. (I am pretty sure that's what you do!)

I agree with the others I would go back to your maiden name and both have that.

[smiles4u]

thanks everyone, I think I am going to change my name back to my maiden name even though I don't like it. It is my family name, and makes so much sense for bub to have that name when I think about it. Does anyone know how to go about doing that?

... if you don't like your maiden name you don't have to change it to that ... a little story here my younger sister and i absolutely did not like the surname we were born with so as soon as i was of legal age i changed my surname to my last middle name, now that might not suit you but what my younger sister did was change her surname to a surname within the family she did like ... she wanted to change it to our Mother's maiden name but it didn't go with her first name, so she changed it to my Grandmother's maiden name (my sis was about 36years old when she changed it so never too old to change your surname through deed poll) ... and she has loved it ever since because even though it's not her own birth name (i can't say maiden name as my sis hasn't been married) - but the name still holds wonderful family ties being that it was our beloved " Nan's " maiden/family name, and it does feel 'almost' as special as her own birth name

If i were you this would be something i would seriously consider as #1 You will actually like the name and #2 It's still a family surname ... so all round you could be really happy with your and your bub's surname