oops I just wrote out a reply and lost it..

thanks girls, and no, if I wasn't having a baby I wouldn't be considering changing my name back. XH and I are on good terms (it wasn't a messy breakup), even if I don't see him anymore. And I wouldn't have changed it because I like it, it's a much nicer name than my maiden name (one of those names that have to be spelled every time you say it), and it's such a pain to change names. But there is no family connection there for bub so it doesn't mean anything.