Using a deceased persons name...just your thoughts....

[TeniBear]

I'd be absolutely honoured if one of my kids or grandkids said they were naming their son after my Ianto. If DH's grandma's alright with it, I think you should be. But I can understand where he's coming from as well. He might think it's a bit wrong (maybe even bad luck?) to call his daughter that... It's really up to you and him together

[Bun]

Personally, I think it is a beautiful thing to do.

[Ginger]

i think it would be a lovely gesture for dh's grandma.
please talk to your dh again and see if you can convince him to let you speak to his grandparents about how they would feel.
i'm sure his grandma would be really touched by it.

[deletedit]

My middle name, as much as I despise it (it is very old fashioned), used to belong to my grandmother's sister, who died as a baby.

[Glamourcide]

I think it's a lovely idea, even if you're not deliberately naming your child *after* another family member (ie, you just happen to like the name and it just so happens there's a Jennifer in the family who, sadly, is deceased). But on the other hand, I can sort of see your DH's perspective - maybe he's worried about being seen as disrespecting the baby's memory, or that it might be a 'bad omen', so to speak?
I'm sorry, I'm not sure what you should do :/ It's a tricky situation. Maybe if you and your DH can sit down with his grandma, talk openly about everything and see if maybe that changes his perspective on things if he can see that his grandma is comfortable with the idea?
Good luck with whichever direction you go in, I hope you find the perfect name soon (if you're not already sitting on it, that is )!

[DaintreeDream]

I think it is a lovely idea. I would love to use the name 'Verna' after my great Aunt who passed away for a middle name, DH is not so keen though. I can understand also that your DH may not be comfortable with the choice as I too would respect that.

[Lisa]

I don't know... I am torn on this one.

On one hand I can see that it is a very beautiful gesture but on the other I can see that having your DH's grandmother holding a little bubba named Jennifer could be a little distressing for her. I think it is definitely something you would have to discuss with those closest to your DH's grandmother and eventually with the grandmother herself.
I know for me, I would love for one of my grand kids or great grand kids to have Noah as a middle name for their child, but actually naming their child Noah would be another thing... it would take a lot of strength to be able to bond to a related child with the same name. That's just my opinion though.

[Inanna]

I think it's an honor personally - but everyone feels differently about these things. It seems like your husband is fairly anti the whole idea which probably is more immediately relevant?
If it were me I would talk to your husband about the honor of that name, the feelings it may bring up for your gran etc etc etc. If he was to agree I would then ask his gran.

My daughter is Lucy Philomena which is the full name of her paternal great grandmother - she died the day I discovered I was pregnant with her. Thus the name. We asked my husbands family who saw it as an honor. I know this is not the same as a still born baby.

Goodluck with it all.