I think it's an honor personally - but everyone feels differently about these things. It seems like your husband is fairly anti the whole idea which probably is more immediately relevant?
If it were me I would talk to your husband about the honor of that name, the feelings it may bring up for your gran etc etc etc. If he was to agree I would then ask his gran.
My daughter is Lucy Philomena which is the full name of her paternal great grandmother - she died the day I discovered I was pregnant with her. Thus the name. We asked my husbands family who saw it as an honor. I know this is not the same as a still born baby.
I don't think it would be weird at all. Like OPs have said more like an honour. If DHs family don't have an issue with it then it really shouldn't be a drama. They might quite like it if they had the chance to hear the idea. Then again if DH can't get past it then it's probably not going to happen. I don't think it would be strange if the baby saw the grave etc, they would just know that they share the same name.
DS3's middle name is the same as DPs brother who passed way when he was 21, his family loved the idea.
I don't think its weird at all.
When I have studied family history its quite common to give a sibling the name of an earlier sibling who has died. I think that's a bit more harder to take but obviously people were fine with it.
My Mums sister died one month before I was born, her name was Mary Adeline (referred to as Adeline)
I was then named Mary, a name I have come to treasure because of its reference to a special person in my families life that I wish I had gotten to meet.
My DH and I wanted a family name for my DD, so we called her Adeline
We have had nothing but wonderful feedback from the family, including the original Adelines husband, brother and of course my Mum.
I hope my DD grows up feeling the same pride in using a loved ones name that I have
It must be hard when your DH feels awkward about it, good luck in arriving at the perfect name for your family.
I woudn't have a problem using it - you never know, but your DH's grandma might just adore holding a baby Jennifer who's a few generations down from her own little Jennifer...sounds a little strange but it might be something she's always needed or wanted. I could of course be wrong! But given she's open to talking about it, she might just rejoice in the chosen name
I agree that it would come across to me as an honnor.
we are naming our son after my grandad (dec) and alsthough i would like my brothers name as a middle name (its a long tradition) my DH wants me to use my fathers name as he has also passed away. So both names are after ppl very close to us that are no longer here.
My nan was very touched and moved when we told her. I am still yet to let my fathers parents know.
I would understand how hard this might be for your DH though as im sure he remembers sad times when this has been discussed as he was growing up.
my son is named after my step dads best friend that died and his parents thought it was awesome and i found out after that they were the same weight at birth
i think its up to u and ur DH maybe just talk to him about it some more and like other posters maybe to his grandma
If that Jennifer had lived, and you used the name, she, and many others, would be thrilled. If she had died recently, it would be the same. People would compliment you on your choice.
Why does that change because Jennifer was born still? It's still just as lovely a thing to do - and possibly a little more so. See if you can talk to the gran about it, gauge her reaction. It might just make her year to know that someone is going to properly acknowledge her precious little bundle, who would have been born in a time when these things were hidden.
It seems like your husband is fairly anti the whole idea which probably is more immediately relevant?
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