Wow this has generated a lot of discussion!
DP and i have discussed getting married eventually, when we feel reday rather than because we have a child. Whether I would change my surname I'm not certain about - much of a pain as mine is I'm so uaed to it! Though I do like the idea of us all having the same surname. I friend of mine who alreday has a double-barrelled surname changed hers, her partners names to a toatlly new surname which they also gave their baby - it was a big hassle but I guess she had a point when she said 'why should one partner lump all the hassle of changing their name?"
I forgot who mentioned the use of maiden name as middle name in the US but it sounds like what they do in Chile: My sister lives there & she was explaining to me how every child has both their mother's and father's surname and when a woman gtes married she drops on eof them and picks up her husbands - quite a neat idea I reckon....though it could just as easliy be the guy who changes his name in my opinion!
#1 has my surname - ugly relationship with father. even though we were together i made the decision to use my surname
#2 had his surname(different father to #1) - never gave it a second thought.
#3 will have his surname(same father as #2)
Im pretty attached to my surname. Im still unsure when we marry if ill takes his. If i take his ill use both until i either change #1's to df's or if that doesnt happen until #1is older.
My actual surname isn't my birth/family name as i changed it when i was 18 through deed poll ... the surname i changed it to is also known as a christian name so if i had of had a boy when pregnant the surname would have been feminine
So, right from the beginning i knew that our baby would have her Daddy's surname
Also i got to have our DD's middle name after my younger sister so i also thought it was only fair my DP had a name in their too
A few of my friends were surprised i didn't give my DD's surname my own surname as it would have been more in character of me BUT i wanted to also give DD her Daddy's surname as a gift to him also as he is just the kindest & such a wonderful & gentle man
Me too Mel (Ariemh) ... if DP & i ever married i have absolutely no intention in changing my surname to his (not to mention his surname is plain boring for me & he knows that, LOL )
I didn't change my name when I got married. My kids have DH's surname. We weren't married when I had my first child and I wanted him to have my surname but was talked (or rather guilted) into giving him DH's name by his family.
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