thread: would you use this name....

  1. #1
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    May 2008
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    would you use this name....

    So, my Grandmother is awesome, DH and I love her and she was always there for me when i was younger, (mum and dad divorced, mum worked full time, grandma looked after me most the time, we lived with her for years) . My mum and Grandma dont really get on too well, nore does my sister and step dad, i mean they see her alot but they are all moaning about her and saying she does annoying things....she is 84! (but thats a whole other thread!!!

    We were talking about names and thought about using Angela, whichis my grandmas name.....but i just know my mum will get funny about us using that name, but i know my grandma will be touched, and she is very special to DH and I and wed love to use it.

    Really to understand why im worried about using it i guess you would need to understnad the relationship between my family and my grandma. And i know in the end if we like the name we should use it, but i dont want to cause conflict and make my grandma feel uncomfortable or make my mum have bad feeling towards my baby.

    Would you use a name if you thought it might casue some wierd feelings!

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    I think it's a great choice - and goes well with the middle name you want to use too. FWIW we named DD after the Bear's grandmother (she has her full name, first middle and last) and we have always been happy with our choice. We love that we named her in honour of someone who was very special to the Bear.
    The Bear's GM passed away a few years ago, and you will probably find that after your GM has passed away everyone's memories of her will be fonder than they are now... and how delighted will she be! I think your mum will get over any issues she has for bub's sake.

  3. #3

    Jul 2009
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    I think it's a great idea, we used one of my great grandma's middles names for DD1's middle name, i was VERY close with ehr and it meant a lot to me.

    I think a name like Angela is cute, it's timeless really and will go with a lot, if your worried about how the family will feel can you use it as a middle name instead?

    Personally I WOULD USE IT, this is YOUR BABY and you have to choose a name that has significance for you and not for anyone else.

  4. #4
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    Mar 2008
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    Go for it! It's your baby! Your Mum will get over it...My Mum went nutso over name choices for DD and the next baby, but he's already over DD's name.

    Angela was my nickname (long story) for years - hence the username - so I am quite fond of it!

  5. #5
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    Feb 2007
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    Very cool name.

    You will never please everyone with your name choice and it's best not to try. You do what feels right for you and everyone else will get over it, even if it takes time.

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    I would use it or use a variation of it.

  7. #7
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    I would use a variation of the name - maybe Angie or Angel or Ange?

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    I love names with a 'reason behind them' so I think it is perfect. Picking a name is sooooo hard so if there is something you love, I'd go for it. However, if your really stressed about it, maybe you could use a variation of it - Angelina prehaps. You could shorten it to Angela and family members would just have to deal with it.

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    I chose to use family names as middle names. Everyone else can stick it

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    May 2007
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    I would be concerned if it caused bad feelings between your mum and your baby. If you love it, then use it. Your mum will get used to it. Maybe use it as a middle name if you think it's going to cause huge issues. Would your mum be upset that you're used your grandmothers name and not her name?? Some people see it as how much you love them, not how much you love the name KWIM. My dad got so offended when I said I wasn't going to use any of his names if we had a boy, but we were going to use Shel's biological dads name, and he was so offended that we valued Shel's bio-dad more than him. Yes, that is the case, but not the reason. We just like the name we wanted to use!

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    I would use it. You have chosen it because you like it and because it has love behind it.
    So it may cause some friction when everone finds out, but surely once they meet your precious bub, all will be forgotten. Maybe if you are worried about friction, just dont tell anyone before you have your bub.

    Personally I think Angela is a beautiful name and the significance behind it makes it even more beautiful.

  12. #12
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    Tis a beautiful choice and if I was you I'd use it! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about her its how YOU feel, and you've already said you and DH love her... So you have your answer!!!

    They wont feel different about the baby. Your baby, your choice, noone elses!

    DD#1 has my grandmother's middle name which is also DH's Great Grandmothers middle name. DD#2 has my mum's middle name which is also DH's aunty's middle name. I think the family connection and love that there is a connection to both sides of our family.

    Go with what you love!

  13. #13
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    I would use the name and tell my family to grow up.

  14. #14
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    Dec 2007
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    I would use the name and tell my family to grow up.
    :yeahthat:

  15. #15
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    My brother named his son after my grandfather who was hated by many in the family for awful reasons that my brother didn't know at the time. He had a fight with my mum pre birth and hung up on her over it. But babies just "are" their name once they're born. So now the whole family associates that name with a new little man. It's almost been healing. Go for it.

  16. #16
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    Aug 2010
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    If you both like the name that I would say go for it!
    It's a cute name and I like that it says angel in it

  17. #17
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    Go for it!!

    We had lots of people not like #2's name to the point MIL told us that her and FIL wouldnt call him that, they would call him a shortened version of his name instead. I said no, u will call him his name.

    Stick to your guns if YOU love the name, its not up to other people what your child is called.

  18. #18
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    Lovely name, very classic and prety, if you like it use it