Ds is 10 weeks old today. We visited my parents for the 2nd time since he was born, I'm trying to avoid going there because mum smokes in the house and so we have had them over to our place instead. I know everyone has differing views and my view is in no way a reflection on anyone else it's my own personal opinion. When DD was born I spoke to my mum about smoking. I asked her to wash her hands after smoking if she wanted to hold her and to not smoke in the house with us there or near her if we were outside. She took it personally, was offended by it but accepted it but still needed reminding about it. Now DS is born and she is not washing her hands and when we were there I went to feed DS in her room. When I came out she was outside with DD and was smoking right next to her, DD was at her feet. I wish I'd said something then and there but I didn't argh Anyway I'm sick of it. The smoke still lingers in the air for up to 5 hrs after a smoker has a smoke, it is on their clothes, skin etc. If I had my way she wouldn't smoke at all. I don't want my kids exposed to it at all. I don't want my baby to be breathing in chemicals from her clothes, I don't want her smoking near my kids or in front of them. I have made comments before when DD has asked to go outside with nanny and I've said in front of my mum that no you can't go outside nanny is having a smoke and it will make you sick yet she still did this. I know it should be as clear cut as just putting my foot down and telling her to stop again but I guess I need a bit of encouragement and some suggestions of how to do it without it causing a rift. My mum is renowned for giving the silent treatment and although this might happen the health of my kids comes first. Im pretty sure she thinks im being ridiculous, her mindset will be that she smoked in all 5 of her pregnancies, smoked in the house/car with us growing up and we are all fine. I need to vent, I'm sick of it and she is well aware of how I feel about it yet she has put me in this situation again!