I like to think I do a bit from column A and a bit from column B! lol
I spend time with DS when he is awake and try and clean when he is asleep! But he also has his own time playing with his toys an exploring the house! Plus he is quite independant and is wanting to do thing by himself a lot now and won't play with me even if Im right next to him!
But he was Prem and now he is a normal 10 month old bub! And I think that has a lot to do with me spending time with him! My house is never spotless and we often have beans on toast for dinner but the dishes are done and the clothes are washed! I do what I have to do to not live in a pigsty! But thats all I think my job is DS not the house work, that comes second!
Try and find what works for you!
Take care
xox