2.5 year old CONSTANTLY whingeing

[mickyndan]

Hi,

I am just interested to know if there are any other 2.5 year olds that constantly whinge for about 80% of the day. I have a DS who doesn't stop - everything is such a drama and everything is NO (even if he means yes)... Is there anyone else out there clinging onto the hope that this stage will end... And also, my DS just doesn't seem to be a good eater. I try and give him different things all the time but he turns his nose up... I am sure I am not the only one experiencing this.

xxoo

[nicole mckay]

yep i hear ya,my dd is 2.3 y.o and she is always winging about something,she has tantrums all day long because i do every thing wrong even if it is the way she has asked for it to be done,i cant win at all at the moment and it takes along time for me to try and please her,yes it does pass but is a very trying age.
nikki

[MistyFying]

I've just spent the day with my adorable 2.5 nephew.... and he did the same thing for most of the day. i ended up using distraction with him, and also telling him I couldn't understand him when he used his whingy voice, and just praised him every now and then when he was talking without whinging and playing nicely

[Charlyfrog]

I have a 3yr old (just turned 3) who has similar behaviour - everything is a stress and so tears and whiney sad voice are used alot!! So we try and encourage her to use her happy voice and no crocodile tears. When the envelope is really pushed we take away something that is really important to her which is her teddy right now. DH has also begun getting her to sit on her bed for a few minutes, maybe 5 just to give her time to compose herself. Teddy doesn't get returned when she gets off her bed though as she has to show us she can play happy etc. So teddy goes in the cupboard for different lengths of time - so however long it takes her to recover and then maybe another 5 minutes. Or if she is really trying it on for the day teddy goes away til lunch time or nap time etc.

It can be so so tiring and draining though that it is so hard not to lose my patience - but I do from time to time I'll show frustration in my voice or raise my voice which she just doesn't get!! Take the teddy away though and her world falls apart.......

re: the food thing. this isn't everyones cup of tea but whilst we won't force DD to eat something she truly doesn't like, when it becomes a battle of the wills its a simple, "oh well, never mind, mummy and daddy are going to have lunch/dinner now, you can sit and chat with us then". It seems to be that if it appears DH & I have ignored her attempt to fuss, she gets bored that she isn't getting the attention she was after and generally eats. She might try the im full, I don't like, so we'll encourage her through it and mostly everything gets eaten.........mostly But like I said, that's just what we do and its not a winner every time that's for sure!!

It does get better...............it really does!!

[aussienic]

yup hear ya here as well.. Jacob is good 90% of the time but the other 10% boy oh boy.. We are trying to deal with it by talking quietly or just walking away. I will admit yesterday I gave him a smack and it seemed to work for the short term. I felt horrible but I simply had had enough of the whiny yelling screaming no at me and I hadn't even done anything. I do know yelling or smacking doesn't work as it just makes him yell louder but yesterday we also put him to bed and he slept 3 hours and also had a day sleep today and was better..

[Claire]

Both eating and whingeing are normal!!

My 2.5 year old is exactly the same - she can whinge about something, I will offer an alternative and then she'll whinge about that! I get confused about what I have offered! And the eating - well she does eat but not much and only when she wants.

I was recently told at mealtimes you offer only one tablespoon for every year - ie my DD is two so she gets two tablespoons of meat/fish, veg and rice/pots - this works for us! If she sees too much much food, she won't eat any!