2nd baby & toddler

[PinkPalace]

hi jen!
welcome!

dont be scared. you will find that 3-4years will be a nice age for you, they will be very willing to help!
my daughter was 15 months when i had DS so she was a lot younger but i would always make sure she was ok first before doing baby things.
I found that in the early months bub will be happy with a cuddle (slings are great) or a feed - so it is important to have things ready for those moments to make sure your DS feels attended to.
have snacks pre-prepared in the fridge for feed times, i found DD was alwaysw hungry when i sat down to feed!
have activities ready to go so he has nothing to ask for when you are changing a nappy etc - and get him involved! he will love it.

I also found having DH take bub when he got home so i coul dhave 1 on 1 with DD helped too.
xx

[HotI]

my daughter was 15 months when i had DS so she was a lot younger but i would always make sure she was ok first before doing baby things.

My toddler is more high needs than my baby, so i often find it easier to settle the baby first and then i have longer to focus on the toddler. then i don't get cranky with the toddler for taking too long (just being a toddler) and the baby is settled and safe first. the temperament of your kids will influence what works best for you.

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

i think the emotions your having are normal, i certainly went through the "how will i cope stage" but i was also upset as DD1 was only 15mths when we had DD2 and that wasn't part of our plan.
That said my girls get along very well, even at 15mths DD1 was so intrigued and willing to help.
There is no right or wrong way with two, you very quickly learn what will & wont work for you, whether it be settling bub or toddler first, who naps first etc etc.
You will probably find once #2 is here you will be a little more relaxed & at ease about the baby stage than you would have been your first and in regards to introducing someone new to the relationship think of it as a new experience and way to spend time & teach your toddler - babies really are a great learning experience for smaller kids