DS1 is nearly 4 (in Feb) and is partially toilet trained (he will use toilet, but needs prompting, won't wipe or flush and only during the day) and has been for about a month now.

He will not go if anyone is in there with him, so for now we are leaving him to his own devices.

As for Kindy, because he has other issues going on (mainly sensory processing disorder) the Kindy has to accept that toileting is part of his special need. He starts Kindy along with his peers in Feb next year!