Agressive Behaviour in 14mth old - I am on my knees and need some help

[Salad]

I have just been on the internet researcing food additives and OMG, DD eats grapes and strawberries every single day and sometimes has a big serve of these right before bed. It says to avoid these fruits. This certainly could be the problem, I cant believe some that I thought were healthy and good for her are actually making her unwell.
Hmm off to do some more research.

Lulu: i did stumble across an old post of yours too in regards to your DD I think it was having a reaction to grapes which you related to sleeping problems.

[amberj]

Salad, have a look at Sue Dengate's book called "Fed Up"- I hired it from the library recently, and it was really interesting. Grapes and strawberries have lots of natural salicilates in them which cause nasty reactions in succeptiable kids (and adults). The diet looks kind of tough, but if it helps your DD behave, its well worth it.

[Olive]

other thought too, we have issues with sleep when we have ear issues with DD2, last month it was fluid behind the ear drums which was causing pain when laying down! id strongly suggest getting her checked my a GP first!

[Salad]

thanks amberj thats the book I have ordered.

Olive - I took her to the doctor earlier in the week and have ruled this and throat issues out. I should have mentioned that. It was one of the other things on my list of could be problems.

[Snacks]

Is she a routine kind of girl? I wonder if the extra house guests might have gotten her out of routine, or perhaps she is transitioning into a new routine and can't get settled into it just yet?
I find my DD's behaviour is at it's most challenging when she hasn't had enough sleep. So for me, I find sleep to be the key factor when trying to sort out behaviour issues.
If it were me, I would try to sort out an appropriate routine (and for us at this age we were transitioning to 1 sleep per day. I think she was about 16 months). Our routine has generally been to have some sort of activity in the morning, a sleep in the afternoon (and sometimes the way to establish this was to get her into the stroller with a biscuit in hand) and then a structured dinner, bath, story, teeth, bed routine.
Possibly this isn't at all what you're after, but thought I'd share anyway. I can imagine it must be so hard on you seeing her hurt herself and not knowing how on earth to stop it. I just hope it resolves for you soon and that you find an effective solution.

[Arcadia]

Grapes! Yes they're bad! We banned them here because of bad behaviour too!! Let us know how you go.

The biting sounds teeth related. Dd always bites when teething. I recommend nurofen. Panadol does nothing for us.

Hope things improve for you.

[Shanti]

Hmmm reading this thread with lots of interest. We too have some problems at the moment with DD getting frustrated at us alot and screaming at us alot like today.... it was a really long day. Very exhausting and I was totally ready to hand her over to someone else!!!!
She eats ALOT of grapes..... hmmmm..... off to research. No more grapes here then.
We are starting baby sign language because we feel perhaps she is so frustrated she cant' communicate with us? she says lots of words etc and very good with sounds etc but perhaps she's just frustrated with not being able to express herself further just yet? Perhaps this is the case with your DD too.
We too, have alot of sleep issues here... waking 3-4 times a night.

hang in there.

[Inertia]

other thought too, we have issues with sleep when we have ear issues with DD2, last month it was fluid behind the ear drums which was causing pain when laying down! id strongly suggest getting her checked my a GP first!

Oh yes, I recently had a out of otitis media and many of the signs to look for in a baby were what I was doing or at least wanted to. I was yanking at my ear lobe, getting very little sleep. I wanted to bash the side of my head against a wall and scream in frustration.

And I couldnt hear much very well because it was like my ear needed to 'pop' all day every day and everything I was doing or wanted to do was in aid of trying to achieve that goal.

My ear infection lasted 2 and a bit months before I finally found something that would work on it.

ETA: Nevermind, lol. Posted while I was typing.