Please go and speak to someone. I ignored things for 7 months and had to rebuild the bond with my DS from scratch. I've been to hell and back and will probably never forgive myself. Even if all is okay it's sometimes just good to debrief.
I'm going to say that it's OK not to insta-"bond" with someone. I didn't with Liebling and, knowing more about my own psychology, don't expect to with Stormy either. This time I am not going to beat myself up about it. You have to build a bond from scratch anyway, so it doesn't really matter when you do it - and your baby will feel a bond with you, even if it takes longer for you.
Why is your DH waking you up instead of doing something useful? He really isn't helping. And if it helps, I can still sleep through Lieby waking up in the night and happily let DH go to him if he wakes and I don't - and get very angry if DH wakes me up! (Lieby is at school now, so that may change things somewhat.)
i wouldn't say that you were broken because you don't wake up for bub. DF learned to attach our babies to my boob at night for the simple fact it was easier for him to do that then spend half hour to an hour trying to wake me up to feed a starving baby (then resulting in settling hysterical baby first to feed) being a mum is exhausting let alone all the other jobs we juggle on top. if you are worried for any reason speak to someone for your own piece of mind/
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