I'm going to say that it's OK not to insta-"bond" with someone. I didn't with Liebling and, knowing more about my own psychology, don't expect to with Stormy either. This time I am not going to beat myself up about it. You have to build a bond from scratch anyway, so it doesn't really matter when you do it - and your baby will feel a bond with you, even if it takes longer for you.

Why is your DH waking you up instead of doing something useful? He really isn't helping. And if it helps, I can still sleep through Lieby waking up in the night and happily let DH go to him if he wakes and I don't - and get very angry if DH wakes me up! (Lieby is at school now, so that may change things somewhat.)