Thanks all for sharing your advice and experience. I have seek advice from midwifes, my obstetrician and other family members, but they all seem to advice us to leave our baby Jason crying as they say crying will never hurt babies regardless of how long they cry for. To answer Erin and Nikbrad question about 'why am i expected to leave Jason crying'....well, the advices from doctors, midwifes and relatives had basically further encouraged my husband to expect me to leave Jason cry to sleep every single time or at least half an hour. My husband says his helping me out by letting Jason cry to sleep, that way Jason won't be a spoil to us both later on and that he'll learn to sleep himself. The other day i spoke to a local council and she advised me to pick our baby up everytime he cries and avoid spoiling him, so that night i tried picking him up and cuddling him every single time...but it just doesn't to work as well, he just basically cried that night everytime i let him down...therefore, i was so exhausted by the morning and left him crying for over 20minutes and he fell asleep soon after that. So, right now i'm just so tied and confused, but when i ask my husband to help out, most of the time he'll just leave Jason crying for an extended time which is pointless because i won't get to rest that way as well.