Veronica - i felt like a failure when i gave Aiden a dummy as well. But, it was the best thing we could of done. He settled really well with it, and i have had no problems with him telling the difference between dummy and boob. If he is awake and wanting a feed, then i take the dummy out a couple of minutes before the feed. My mum also said sucking helps with wind. I have also started to use a little bit of infants friends mixed with maybe 10 - 20ml of warm water, but, have only really just started to need to use that, but, its always worth a go. Aiden farts and burps all at once when i give him that, and then settles really well.

They dont know the difference between night and day, and also, when you come home from hospital, they have a whole new enviroment to get used to agaain. Just relax, and work around her routine for awhile. On my first few days at home, Aiden would be awake for a few hours during the night - i spent a lot of time on BB then. Cause he was just awake, and i figured no point in upsetting him, and me, by trying to get him to sleep. So, like everyone says, sleep during the day when they sleep. You also get very very good at catching 5mins here and there..

I was in hospital for 4 days after his birth, and your day diary looks pretty similar to how our days where. No routine no nothing. Forget about the clock, just work to what she needs. Aiden has days when he will feed happily every 4 hours, can be awake, happy for 4 hours, but, then have days when he will feed every 2hours, sometimes 90min, and just want cuddles, and not sleep well, and then, for no apparent reason, will go back to being a 4hour cycle baby. If i tried to stick to the "routine" i would be nuts by now, and Aiden would be very unhappy.

Its all new, and you are a sensible girl, and with the help and support of peoples on here, you will do just fine.