The only thing that I can add is that I think that you are doign a GREAT JOB!!!! Don't feel like a failure for giving her a dummy. I felt the same way when my DD was about the same age. I had problems bfing her, and after I introduced the dummy, it actaully made it EASIER. I think that part of it was that we were all sleeping a bit better so our stress levels were reduced.

I also read a fair but about sucking being a comfort for newborns (hence why they like the boob), and that sometimes giving them a dummy can help them adjust and relax. How many books will tell you that these days?!?! But ignore anyone who gives you any sort of flack for giving her a dummy. She's your daughter, and you decide what's best for her and your family.

I agree with the night/day thing. It takes them a while to learn the difference.

At night, have you tried putting the top that you've been wearing for the day in the cot with her? Have her lie on it? She may get some comfort from your smell.

Good luck sweetheart and keep up the good work.