Is there any way that you could take the side off the cot and make sure the cot is right up next to your bed (wedged between the wall maybe?)

I have had Eva next to me like this since we came home from hospital and it has worked SO well, because we are as close as if we are co-sleeping, yet we have our own space and are not anxious about rolling on her. It seems to work even better because the cot mattress is exactly level with our bed mattress, so its really just a long extension...

My son Aidyn co-slept with us on and off for the first 3 years.... sometimes we had issues getting him to sleep in his own bed/cot, and other times it was fine. I don't think that co-sleeping sets them up for problems later on of not wanting to sleep on their own. I know heaps of kids that have co-slept and had no problems with transferring to their own bed/cot when they are older.

BTW, Eva also only sleeps in a bouncer or pram, or sling, during the day as well!

Goodluck, I hope you find a solution that works well for all of you.