crying crying cryinngggg

[christy]

ahhh you have tried so much. I'm sorry if my post seemed like I was condeming you, far from it.

Matilda did this starting from around 4 weeks, she would scream. It didn't matter if I was holding her or not, and I felt so guilty when I put her down and walked away. So even though I posted about cortisol and all of that, sometimes, not a regular thing... its the best thing for her.

I guess with all you have done the best thing may be to take her to someone for help. With Matilda, I went the general method. I went to GP's, Paediatricians, sleep school and MCHN's. With Jovie, I went the alternative route, I went to a lactation consultant first because her stuff affected her feeding. Then I took her to a chiro and then an acupuncturist. We got the most and best relief from acupuncture out of everything we did, for either child. And we found out at the same time that Jovie reacted to cows milk products and soy. So I changed my diet and Jovie got better without anything else. A few months later Matilda was diagnosed with a severe milk allergy.

A few people who have been known to be help with reflux:

osteopaths
chiropractors
acupuncturist
lactation consultants

I would start one at a time. Concentrate on one thing and in a week if you haven't found relief, move on. Sometimes it helps to have GP's working with alternative therapies to get the best relief.

[Cassius2]

Hi MummyMeg!

LOL at the 'all cute in the backseat'!! so true! at least she is calm though!

yeah, i think the shopping centre fear is there for all of us first timers! but i bit the bullet pretty early on in the process as it is a place FULL of desperately overtired mums and bubs, you see us everywhere pushing bubs around while they sleep peacefully away in the prams...so there is some solidarity...also, the parent rooms are a good place to go when bubs is screaming and needs a feed as invariably there are other mums with bubs doing the exact same thing. i found that i haunted shopping centres, cafes (have a coffee - decaf if necessary! while bubs is feeding or sleeping), or if worse comes to worse go for a walk around the neighbourhood...DH and I found that we got to know our area SO MUCH better after having DD! LOL!!

i also recommend joining a parents group (if you havent already). this was my saving grace as it meant that despite having horrible nights and days i could go somewhere and vent and compare notes with other mums. it was also GREAT to see other mums going through the same things as me! made me realise that DD wasnt crying because i was doing the wrong thing, she was crying, because that's just what they do! now 9 months down the track we are great friends and meet up a couple of times a week, for much needed coffees...

Also, remember, if things get really tough on the sleep front there is always the sleep school option. i recommend giving tresillian or QE2 a call and trying to book in. there is generally a waiting list, so put your name down and if in the 2 months things sort out, great, otherwise hang in there and go along. everyone of the mums in my group that have gone have found it really helps. Also there are day sleep schools that you can go to, generally run through the MACH centres. talk to your nurse or on the helpline. i went to the day one and it changed my life! (i went when DD was 6 weeks). check it all out online, there is alot out there. also, if you are interested in more attachent style, there are some great people who can come to you and give you some ideas on what to do. for this i recommend starting out with Pinky McKay (she has her own website...google her name...sorry not sure if i can mention it on here...).