Like the others have said I would talk to the carers but keep in mind that it might have been a bit made up. You mention she hasn't learnt about fibbing and getting out of trouble etc. but I have mummy friends who's kids tell them they eat pizza everyday at CC and don't have naps, when infact the carers notes and circulated menu tells mum that they did not have pizza and they did have a sleep. Being a bit generous with the truth can happen even when there is no real purpose IYKWIM? But talk to the carers, they would know if the children where even in a position for this to have happened.
Thanks, girls I did mention it to one of her carers this morning, a girl I'm friends with, and told her that I honestly can't say how much was true and how much was made up, but that DD1 had mentioned something about touching and that I just wanted them to be aware of it. She assured me she would let the other carers in DD1's room know about it and keep on top of it, and let me know if they heard anything more (from either DD1 or any other kids), so at least that has put my mind at ease. I'm absolutely positive that if anything has happened, it would have just been her mucking around with her little friends, the only adults she is ever around without my eyes being on her is my parents - and I know people say 'Oh, but family member x would never behave inappropriately with my child or others', but I can absolutely guarantee that neither of my parents would EVER do anything remotely like that. Other family members and friends I can't be 100% about and for that reason I never allow them to look after DD1 without me being around (eg my brother - nice kid, I have no doubt that he would never hurt DD1, but some chances you just don't take, kwim?). I try to be 'alert, not alarmed' when it comes to this kind of stuff so I am definitely keeping in mind that there is no reason to panic and I'm sure everything's fine - I feel much better about it today after sleeping on it last night - I was just caught a bit off guard as I hadn't really thought I'd have to have this discussion with DD1 just yet
I am so grateful for all your advice, I didn't even talk to DH about it until this morning lol, just jumped straight on BB knowing that you girls would have some wise words for me I appreciate it!
Sounds like you have handled things beautifully Donna.
Its always a tough one, I would like to share a story from my childhood.
I was staying the night with the neighbours and without the details Male neighbour tried to touch me. I told mum what happened and she went psycho nuts at neighbour when he came over to say nothing happened (which it didn't but nearly did). Mum and dad contemplated going to the police, which they decided not too as they didn't want it to affect me for the rest of my life. They told us kids not to go over to neighbours any more but how can you tell kids not to see their friends any more?? Eventually neighbours moved away. Mum has always made me feel awful about it as she always says " I can not believe after what happened with neighbour that you still wanted to go over there"
I believe because it was "down played" I didn't understand why I shouldn't have kept going over there itms. so instead of not letting the nearly incident affect me for the rest of my life I have my mother making me feel guilty for it.
my moral is,
you have done the right thing in handling the situation the way you have, hopefully it will never happen again but if it does don't down play the seriousness as your child will not learn that she is in the right for reporting it .... dunno if that makes any sense....
well done hun in handling what would be a difficult, delicate and disturbing thing to hear your child say x x
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I did mention it to one of her carers this morning, a girl I'm friends with, and told her that I honestly can't say how much was true and how much was made up, but that DD1 had mentioned something about touching and that I just wanted them to be aware of it. She assured me she would let the other carers in DD1's room know about it and keep on top of it, and let me know if they heard anything more (from either DD1 or any other kids), so at least that has put my mind at ease. I'm absolutely positive that if anything has happened, it would have just been her mucking around with her little friends, the only adults she is ever around without my eyes being on her is my parents - and I know people say 'Oh, but family member x would never behave inappropriately with my child or others', but I can absolutely guarantee that neither of my parents would EVER do anything remotely like that. Other family members and friends I can't be 100% about and for that reason I never allow them to look after DD1 without me being around (eg my brother - nice kid, I have no doubt that he would never hurt DD1, but some chances you just don't take, kwim?). I try to be 'alert, not alarmed' when it comes to this kind of stuff so I am definitely keeping in mind that there is no reason to panic and I'm sure everything's fine - I feel much better about it today after sleeping on it last night - I was just caught a bit off guard as I hadn't really thought I'd have to have this discussion with DD1 just yet 
I appreciate it!
well done hun in handling what would be a difficult, delicate and disturbing thing to hear your child say x x
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