Thanks, girls I did mention it to one of her carers this morning, a girl I'm friends with, and told her that I honestly can't say how much was true and how much was made up, but that DD1 had mentioned something about touching and that I just wanted them to be aware of it. She assured me she would let the other carers in DD1's room know about it and keep on top of it, and let me know if they heard anything more (from either DD1 or any other kids), so at least that has put my mind at ease. I'm absolutely positive that if anything has happened, it would have just been her mucking around with her little friends, the only adults she is ever around without my eyes being on her is my parents - and I know people say 'Oh, but family member x would never behave inappropriately with my child or others', but I can absolutely guarantee that neither of my parents would EVER do anything remotely like that. Other family members and friends I can't be 100% about and for that reason I never allow them to look after DD1 without me being around (eg my brother - nice kid, I have no doubt that he would never hurt DD1, but some chances you just don't take, kwim?). I try to be 'alert, not alarmed' when it comes to this kind of stuff so I am definitely keeping in mind that there is no reason to panic and I'm sure everything's fine - I feel much better about it today after sleeping on it last night - I was just caught a bit off guard as I hadn't really thought I'd have to have this discussion with DD1 just yet
I am so grateful for all your advice, I didn't even talk to DH about it until this morning lol, just jumped straight on BB knowing that you girls would have some wise words for me I appreciate it!