thank you all for ur replies!!!

Crumpet i hate dummies, i hate evrything about them. I hate that there are kids that dont have any photos without the thing in their mouth, i hate that there are kids that are walking around with them in their mouth and i HATE that there are kids that learn to talk around them in their mouth. I think that they are dirty over used.... I DOUBLE hate them because people force their babies to learn to love something and then take it away or blame someone else for taking it away (ie santa, new baby, dummy fairy) I think thats just FERRAL and MEAN!!

I think that S is such a great baby for you Crumpet and that she would like you said learn to self settle super quick for you. Id ditch it now

Before you jump down my throat.....I have only ranted because i could that crumpet wouldnt expect anything less from me
of course id expect nothing less from you!!!!!

Sounds like you just need to ditch it crumpet. If she's not using it from 10ish pm onwards, and sleeps right through, dude, you are on a good thing. She doesn't need it.
its only a get to sleep thing i think...

If it only takes her 20 mins to settle and she sleeps all night, i don't think you have that much to be concerned about.
no im lucky i dont to worry about the sleeping through thats for sure!

i say ditch it too its a lot harder when they are 2 let me tell u lol
thats what worried me! i didnt want her to be walking and still wanting it...

WELL we made the move and didnt give DD her dummy at "suicide hour" as DH calls it...
and she whinged the same amount as she would with the dummy so that proved she didnt need it at that time of the day...
i put her to bed at 7pm no dummy, tucked her in, gave her her comforter and put her sleep sheep on and she hasnt made a sound!! but i dont wanna jinx us!!!

surely it cant be that easy???