Hi Kellee,

You sound very distressed, poor bugger. I know this sounds hard to do but the more stressed you are the worse the situation usually gets because they pick up on our moods. And if your getting nervous or stressed because you know a sleep is due he will react to that.
My DD is 22 months old and i was having trouble getting her to sleep at night. No where near as extreme as your little man but still enough to drives us nuts as well.
Yesterday my husband and I went to a Parenting Centre that deliberately doesnt do CC which i was against doing. And last night i had the best sleep, she still was a bit unsettled but the difference was noticeable.
They got us to put our DD in bed, and walk away. If she cried (which she did straight away) then I return. Do this 3 times. If still she isnt asleep then get a chair and sit the chair next to the bed and sit and face away
 from your child but holding their hand or stroking their back, head whatever, or just place your hand close and at the same time as stroking just calmly and quietly say shhhhh time for sleeps (make up the same soothing words to suit but use every night). Do this for 15 minutes and this still doesnt work remove the chair and kneel on floor with chest on bed and face child and talk softly to or sing, do whatever works but be consistant. She said i could say soflty what 2morrow may bring then continue to sooth. Do this for a further 15 mins. If this still doesnt work then lay you head only on pillow next to child and again sooth talk or by this stage i close my eyes and stop talking. This is were you stay unit child is asleep. If your child tends to wake through night do it all again.
If BF are to be included then take your child out of bed to feed and then place back in bed and do the above.
I dont know if any of this will help seeing as you child is alot younger but you can give it a go and see. This lady reackons my DD would get it by day 2. Again age makes a difference.
Hope i helped someone. Dont dispair though, there is organisation out there that dont do CC. See if you have a community Centre that has the number to Parent hotline or something.
Good Luck!