Finally booked DS to see his paediatrician

[Charlotte91]

Hey honey, is your appointment today??

Still thinking of you, keep us updated!

xox

[JLeigh29]

Me too - GL today.

Sending you lots of good vibes and

[Miss.B]

Thanks JLeigh29 & charlotte91, I got the referral yesterday and the paed. app. is today at 2pm. The GP was asking what the problem was and I felt so silly telling her but she wrote it all down and said that the paed will check him out and if he thinks he needs further assessment he will refer him onto another person/people. And of course he didn't do the hand/arm flapping in the room so I couldn't show it to her. DF gave him a cracker and of course he was distracted by that. I'm quietly pooing myself, I've had this knot in my stomach all day yesterday and it's worse today. I'm so hoping the paed will say he's fine. Thanks so much for thinking of me ladies

CeCe have you had the app. with the paed yet?

Just me, how did you go with the referral hun?

Big hugs ladies

[human bean]

Good luck today hun will be thinking of you and your gorgeous little man

[Just Me]

Just me, how did you go with the referral hun?

I took DS1 to the doctor last week and I think he showed every classic behaviour in the book while we were there ...

- He licked the chair
- Walked on his tippy toes in circles while flapping his arms continuoulsy
- Swung his head round and round in circles
- Made odd and strange noises repetitively over and over again
- Had a small break down when the doctor tried to touch him
- Asked what every noise that he could hear was
- Refused to make eye contact with the doctor
- The doctor tried to talk to him and had this conversation with him

D: Did you have a birthday recently?
DS: *makes weird noise* Yes
D: What cake did you have?
DS: One that was cut up into little.tiny.pieces?
D: Did the cake look like anything?
DS: Little.tiny.pieces (DS talks in a very staccato voice ... I don't know how else to describe it)

DS did a few other things but I can't remember what they are now. I talked to the doctor about the things I was concerned about - DS didn't cope with our last holiday. He screamed for hours every day uncontrollably, he does really well most of the time but as soon as we do anything different, DS loses it. He tends to lick things and if he isn't licking things, he is licking his mouth or flicking his tongue backwards and forwards, he won't eat any food that is hot (which the doctor told me was just my bad parenting and DS pushing my buttons ), he has abosolutely no interest in other kids - he talks to grown ups (more talks at them) but if another child is doing something, besides my other kids, he has no interest in what they are doing ... there were also a few other things (I took a list).

The doctor told me it was all normal three year old behaviour and he was showing signs of anxiety. He then also said that he had no experience with any thing on the spectrum but because DS has quite good language skills for his age (DS was stringing words together from 12 months), he said that he didn't think it was anything on the spectrum. He told me that while I was in the doctor's office, DS did nothing that was unusual for a three year old. I tend to agree that all those behaviours on their own are normal but I think the way he acted and the series of behaviours and the consistency of them indicates that there might be more going on.

The doctor compromised with me and gave me an appointment to see a Paed. who would know whether the behaviours are concerning. He looked at me like I was an overbearing parent who had no idea.

I hate seeing the GP. I always feel like an idiot afterwards and I did again that day. I feel like I am over reacting and that I am a fraud. That other parents have real issues with their kids and I am struggling to cope with my very normal child and trying to act like there is something wrong with him. It was pretty awful.

I know how you feel Miss B about your doctor's appointment because I felt the same through mine.

I haven't made the appointment for the Paed yet. I don't know if I will. I feel like such a hypocondriac and I don't want to waste anyone else's time. I really don't know what to think now.