I can only tell you what we did - DS was a horrible sleeper - did not sleep through the night for the first time until he was 18 months old (when I was first pregnant with DD!) This was when he dropped all day sleeps and went into a big boy's bed.

But we wanted them close together and we figured that we were in the thick of it and we want 3 or 4 so...let's just keep going...and that DS would do a lot of growing up in the 9 months. The age gap is very important to me, there were big gaps between me and my siblings and I decided from a very young age that when I had babies they would be closer together.

I was incredibly worried about DS was going to go...so used to having Mummy's exclusive and undivided attention and concerned about the lack of sleep if Number Two was going to be like DS.

Well, DD is a complete sweetheart. She is just starting to sleep through the night now and DS still winds up in our bed nearly every night!! And I made sure DS got one on one time whenever DD was asleep in the early days and if he was ever interested in what she was doing or wanted to hold her we encouraged that without forcing her on him. He now loves to see her in the morning, gives her hugs and kisses off his own bat, wants her to come along whenever we go anywhere. It truly has not been nearly as bad as I was envisioning. Not easy by any means, I do get quite tired, but I am already ready to contemplate a third, which I would not have expected so early on.

And I say this as a believer...re your lack of psychic feelings - maybe there are some things we are not meant to know. But don't let yourself be pressured into something...it worked out great for me fortunately but I chose according to my priorities and that was the age gap over my comfort - I gambled on short term pain for long term gain!