Thank you all for the advice. Will try putting my t shirt in the cot with her tonight and see of that helps as dont know what else to try. Last night i tried to sit next to her cot but it seemed to make it worse. She was probably thinking...dont just sit there..get up mum and take me out!! I think i need to choose something and stick with it for a while. Sometimes i think taking her out of her room makes it worse . I wish now, that i bought a rocking chair and used it straight away.. i know i would have been setting myself up for doing it all the day but anything would help right about now and it sure would be more comfy then carrying her around the house. Goodluck to you as well, first bub. That routine sounds great noni e. I give DD a bath and then feed around the same time each night, last night she was asleep at 6:45 pm in her cot (no crying) i was amazed...then she woke up 45 mins later and was hard to settle.. I will try the book before bed too.. only thing is..books excite DD...so i dunno how that'll go..but worth a try.