Is he a good baby..? And other comments that drive you mad....

[~Kaz~]

When are you having another child

Definitely that one!! aside from the fact that it's no ones business but ours, we are unlikely to be able to have more kids and the last thing I want to do is explain that and the reasons why.

Also, when DS was under 12 months "Is he a good baby?" - I got it all the time and I really hate that question and all of the loaded stuff underlying it.

"Does he sleep through?" - I always wondered if all the people asking that question were doing some kind of research to get stats on how many kids sleep through at different ages! It wasn't so much the question that bothered me but the whole area of discussion that it opened up when I said no. That discussion still drives me nuts actually because I'm still having it LOL!!!

My batty next door neighbour (so not a stranger) used to ask me very intensely every month or so whether I was still breastfeeding DS (with the expected response being yes). I didn't think this would annoy me (i.e. she was pro-extended breastfeeding) but her little comments of approval after I would say yes were so irritating! I got the impression she would have given me a hard time if I'd weaned DS too early in her opinion. I guess I don't like being judged in either direction for the choices I, DP and DS make about how we raise him.

JM - hun. That totally sucks that you cop that so frequently. I think you should definitely remind people that your kids have ears, they're bright and they understand what the speaker has just implied about their existence. People just don't think and treat kids like they're not even there!

[RhiChiChi]

How long were you in labour for?

Formula is easy

It must be hard for single mums

How much does he weigh?

He doesn't look Aboriginal

The last quote is mind blowing! I can't believe people say stuff like that

[Mumma T]

Ttc - so when are you going to have kids? (month 15 and counting, it's not my choice we don't have a kid yet! When mother nature says so grrr)

[Jennifer13]

I think it is because I had them all within three and a half years of each other. I honestly feel like a walking freak show whenever we go out (especially when DH is not with me) because every second person says something to me about it

That, and everyone thinks they are a comedian and I haven't heard it approx 409884598359873498 times before.

I think they forget that my kids have ears and can hear them. And kids understand a lot ...

When people ask me if I own a TV I have started telling them "Of course I do, I am just very good at multi tasking." Then walk away while I let it sink in

Tehehehe...

You should add, actually I have a few more, but they're all at school. At least, I hope that's where they are.

[MummyOfTerrors]

Hmmm ... let me see ...

Are they all yours?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

Are any of them twins?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

Don't you own a TV?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

Are you pregnant with number 5 yet?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

How do you managed all of them on your own?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

You must have your hands full ...

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

Are you insane?

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

You must be a sucker for punishment ...

Have you figured out what causes them yet?

And also people who point to my kids, count to four loudly and look shocked.

And especially when people ask - "Have you figured out what causes them yet?"

JM i get the same deal when we go out! cept mine are 3 in 3yrs but my family is the worst
how do you cope?
and lucky your a natural
is he your last
and the best one are you using reliable birth control now????

and my 3rd is still in my bed so at 2 months ive started a really bad habit!!!!
i always get asked how are the older 2 coping??? and is he a good baby??? (they get such a shock when i reply his been sleeping 10hrs a night for nearly a month)

[meow]

Are you sure it's not twins? (I get it, I carry big)

When did you wean? (I'm still BFing)

[njon2]

Your still BF?
Is she sleeping through the night?
She's very quiet!
You shouldn't have her in your bed (or any other comment regarding bed sharing)
My daughter didn't need a night feed at that age (my daughter is 10 weeks, BF, and sleeping for 1-2 4 hour blocks every night. I think that is something to be proud of!)

But the worst - "YOU SHOULD DO THAT IN PRIVATE!"
That is refering to breastfeeding and by my own sister who thinks it should be done in private all the time.

[Loveinamist]

He'll be too heavy for you to carry around like that soon (about babywearing)
THere is nothing wrong with letting them scream...does them no harm
You'll never get him out of your bed and your relationship will suffer
Can't believe you still have milk etc
and I have had at least 10 apparently psychic people tell me I will have two really close together. Ds is 19 months even if I got pregnant now (which without embarking on IVF/ICSI treatment is not going to happen!) they would never be considered 'close together'

[alish]

pregnant here!

ohh youre just about ready to pop
geeez youve dropped (ive always carried low but anyway)
youll get sick of using cloth nappies
dont go picking up that baby everytime it cries
dont go carrying that baby around all day
youll stop breatfeeding when it bites
if theyre old enough to ask for it they dont need to breastfeed anymore
get used to going out with a baby, you cant be stuck in the house all day
get that baby used to noise


sigh!

[SunnyRain]

My answer to "is she a good baby?" is a blank stare followed by "she's a baby. Like any other baby."

I got some hilarious advice from a 16 year old store clerk the other day. Lilac was in my sling, she woke up and decided she was hungry so started chewing on my arm. I said "stop chewing on my arm, I'll feed you in a second."and the clerk said "oh she'll be doing that until she's 4."

I had to work hard not to burst. Really? Chewing on my arm until she's 4? That should be fun. I wonder why my nearly 3yo doesn't chew on my arm any more.

Sent from my Desire HD

[berrme]

You will be having an elective c/s this time won't you?
Don't you HAVE to have another c/s?
You got a girl... you must be relieved.
You got a girl... now you have a shopping buddy.
You are brave having a 3rd when you have 2 boys.
Maybe you won't lose the baby weight this time.
Wow, you have your hands full.

[Kimbles01]

My answer to "is she a good baby?" is a blank stare followed by "she's a baby. Like any other baby."

As if people would expect you to say no, actually she's a bad baby? Makes you wonder about some people

I'm sick of 'do you know what you're having?' - well, hopefully a human baby, but I guess we'll find out soon!
Or 'do you know if you're having a boy or a girl' - yes, there's a 50/50 chance of either.

[berrme]

As if people would expect you to say no, actually she's a bad baby? Makes you wonder about some people

I say no all the time, and people definitely don't know how to respond. She isn't a good sleeper and likes to be carried around all the time so by societies standards she isn't a good baby. I get a lot of "oh well, she is only little yet, she will get there." lol

[berrme]

double post

[KitFaerie]

Are you going to be breastfeeding him when he's 18?

Will he be sleeping in your room when he's 18?

Oooh he's gonna be a handful when he's older.

You have to start telling him no.

You have to let him cry.

Isn't he getting too heavy for the sling?

[njon2]

Are you going to be breastfeeding him when he's 18?

Will he be sleeping in your room when he's 18?

Oooh he's gonna be a handful when he's older.

You have to start telling him no.

You have to let him cry.

Isn't he getting too heavy for the sling?

Ditto on everything you said

[Kazzo]

The worst for me would have to be a stranger walking past while I am comforting DD2 if she is crying and they say 'You are creating a rod for your back.' You have seen us for all of 30 seconds and you have us all figured out already, good on you

[LionsandBears]

Better the awkwardness than the response from one lady a couple of months ago - "well that doesn't count, it's not a real baby" Felt like a fricken real labor and looked like a real baby

Did you hit her? I dont normally support violence but that comment was asking for a punch in the mouth!!

Were you able to think of anything to say? I imagine you were so shocked you wouldnt know what to say.

Rant over. Back to normal programming...